
Showing posts with label waiting children. Show all posts
Showing posts with label waiting children. Show all posts
Saturday, December 28, 2013
FULLY FUNDED! See What God Has Done!

Thursday, December 19, 2013
9 Months Home…Toby has a Message for You!
Thursday, November 21, 2013
When God Calls…THEY MOVE! {the Cole family}
Chasity and her beloved husband, Jonathan, have been married since 1997:
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Levy and Zeb 2011 in Uganda |
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Alex and Reagan |
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Jude and Levy |
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most precious Ava |

Thursday, September 26, 2013
A 2nd Grader's Widow's Mite
2 He also saw a poor widow put in two very small copper coins. 3 “Truly I tell you,” he said, “this poor widow has put in more than all the others. 4 All these people gave their gifts out of their wealth; but she out of her poverty put in all she had to live on.”

Wednesday, September 18, 2013
Busted out and Growin' Strong!
It was rather EMOTIONAL. For everyone!
Mommy is looking for that precious dimple! Didn't I see one over here?!?!
On the way back to the hotel...
"What is this game of "peek-a-boo" anyway?!"
Precious first moments together...
Adoption day was the very next day! A Shaw FOREVER!!
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And now for a look at Toby's first 6 months in a family...
Three brothers in jammies!!
That amazing smile...
Swinging high...oh my the GIGGLES the first time he ever did this!!
With big sister! Oh THERE is that precious dimple!!
On vacation with one of his favorite people, "Gwampa!"
In "wuv" with all his sisters!
First birthday in a family!!
And the final image to represent the change in Toby after 6 months:

Friday, June 7, 2013
Finding a Home for Yuri and Zhenya
I'd like to introduce you to these two special kids: Zhenya and Yuri. They are orphans who live in Ukraine. I am trying to help find them a forever family.
Because they are biological siblings, the Ukraine requires that they be adopted together.
That's a VERY good thing for Zhenya who is already too old to be adopted--she is 16 going on 17. (trying not to break into song here...)
In the Ukraine, children are no longer eligible for adoption after they turn 16.
However, the loophole is that her brother, Yuri, is only 15. Because HE is eligible still...so is she!
Ukraine places a high value on keeping siblings together. Thank you, Ukraine.
So here's the scoop on this MOST precious orphan sibs:
They have only been at their orphanage 3 years. Before that, they were at home with their single mom...where they knew love...and extreme poverty. Tragically, she passed away. Before she did, she made sure these two were carefully placed in a Christian orphanage.
Why do I know so much about these two? My friend, Sheryl, had the blessing of being their host family last summer for 4 weeks. She is deeply desiring to find them a permanent family. In her words, "She has cried buckets over these two, but for some reason God has said no to us...so we are hoping desperately for another family will come for them."

Yuri is 15 years old but in early December he turns 16. He is described as being quiet, extremely polite and kind, embarrasses easily, socially shy, laid back, non-aggressive. He does well with with other teen boys, and does not take advances from girls. If a girl even spoke to him he would blush! He is not into sports, but rather is interested in working with his hands. Yuri would thrive in a family where the dad farms, is in construction, or electrical, etc. He is very handy. He has a goal of owning his own electrical business. He is a dreamer and very goal oriented! He wants to work for a living, as opposed to going to school. Would not do as well in suburban life...prefers the country. After he went home Sheryl said he has really become focused on his academics. (I think she was an awesome host mom!!)

Zhenya, pronounced"Jania,"
is described as loving to bake, be in the kitchen, and do crafts. She is very good with little children. She loves anything artsy. She is more obstinate than her brother, but zero trouble at all. She has more of a controlling personality than her brother. She is desperate for a family! She wants to come to America permanently so badly! She could really use prayer for a very big life altering decision she must make on August 31st regarding her future.
They come from a pentecostal orphanage, required to dress in a certain way--no jeans at all, only skirts. When they were here they showed great respect for this and continued to be modest, even when it was not required.
Both loved Christian music and only wanted that downloaded to their devices.
The family who comes for them must have paperwork done by first week of December due to Yuri's birthday. They would be perfect for family with home study already done.
Sheryl believes they would fit in well in a family with other teens so they can bond.
These two will be coming back to America through a hosting program June 25-July 29! They will be here in Ohio, so if you wanted to you could meet them and spend time with them!!
Please consider these precious brother/sister pair!
If you are interested, please message me or leave a comment with your contact information. (I will not publish it but get back to you privately.)
"They are truly amazing kids with really tender hearts! We've been to Ukraine, we've been to the orphanages, and these kids are really amazing!" ~Sheryl, host mom summer 2012.
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Because they are biological siblings, the Ukraine requires that they be adopted together.
That's a VERY good thing for Zhenya who is already too old to be adopted--she is 16 going on 17. (trying not to break into song here...)
In the Ukraine, children are no longer eligible for adoption after they turn 16.
However, the loophole is that her brother, Yuri, is only 15. Because HE is eligible still...so is she!
Ukraine places a high value on keeping siblings together. Thank you, Ukraine.
So here's the scoop on this MOST precious orphan sibs:
They have only been at their orphanage 3 years. Before that, they were at home with their single mom...where they knew love...and extreme poverty. Tragically, she passed away. Before she did, she made sure these two were carefully placed in a Christian orphanage.
Why do I know so much about these two? My friend, Sheryl, had the blessing of being their host family last summer for 4 weeks. She is deeply desiring to find them a permanent family. In her words, "She has cried buckets over these two, but for some reason God has said no to us...so we are hoping desperately for another family will come for them."

Yuri is 15 years old but in early December he turns 16. He is described as being quiet, extremely polite and kind, embarrasses easily, socially shy, laid back, non-aggressive. He does well with with other teen boys, and does not take advances from girls. If a girl even spoke to him he would blush! He is not into sports, but rather is interested in working with his hands. Yuri would thrive in a family where the dad farms, is in construction, or electrical, etc. He is very handy. He has a goal of owning his own electrical business. He is a dreamer and very goal oriented! He wants to work for a living, as opposed to going to school. Would not do as well in suburban life...prefers the country. After he went home Sheryl said he has really become focused on his academics. (I think she was an awesome host mom!!)

Zhenya, pronounced"Jania,"
is described as loving to bake, be in the kitchen, and do crafts. She is very good with little children. She loves anything artsy. She is more obstinate than her brother, but zero trouble at all. She has more of a controlling personality than her brother. She is desperate for a family! She wants to come to America permanently so badly! She could really use prayer for a very big life altering decision she must make on August 31st regarding her future.
They come from a pentecostal orphanage, required to dress in a certain way--no jeans at all, only skirts. When they were here they showed great respect for this and continued to be modest, even when it was not required.
Both loved Christian music and only wanted that downloaded to their devices.
The family who comes for them must have paperwork done by first week of December due to Yuri's birthday. They would be perfect for family with home study already done.
Sheryl believes they would fit in well in a family with other teens so they can bond.
These two will be coming back to America through a hosting program June 25-July 29! They will be here in Ohio, so if you wanted to you could meet them and spend time with them!!
Please consider these precious brother/sister pair!
If you are interested, please message me or leave a comment with your contact information. (I will not publish it but get back to you privately.)
Labels:
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Thursday, June 6, 2013
About Our Esty...
So many have asked sweet questions about our newest child, dear
so I thought I would share a bit about WHO she is and WHY we are pursuing her.
As God has grown me in the past year, I have personally witnessed the incredible POWER that advocating for voiceless orphans has on lives.
Afterall, when Kelly advocated for our Toby here, exactly EIGHT lives radically changed...with more lives along the edges being impacted by Toby's story and his life as a Shaw.
My life by someone else advocating for orphans.
And so, it was only natural that I would begin doing the same.
Sharing faces.
Sharing stories.
Passing on links, making connections and praying my heart out for these children who need families.
Esty was one of those children I advocated for.
On November 20, 2012 I advocated for her on my Facebook page.
Here was a little girl who had been waiting in her birth country for someone to love her.
For someone to find value in her life.
I learned that she wanted to become a doctor when she grows up.
I know the reality: she is handicapped. Wheelchair bound.
In China, this means she is locked away from education.
Schools have no wheelchair access.
No special needs accommodations.
She has no hope of ever becoming a doctor if she remains in China.
Yet she has been waiting for a family for over 8 years.
EIGHT YEARS!!!
I cannot begin to comprehend that, honestly.
I think about where we were when she was born. (Incidentally, we were in China, living our lives as a family of 4 then...)
I think about where we were when she was abandoned (again, we were still in China...and I so wish I had been able to scoop up this little broken baby left on a train!!)
We came home then, had Oliver, gave birth to and then buried Oskar, moved and began a life in the NW corner of Ohio...all the while
she
waited.
It was in the quiet of the early morning when God spoke clearly and directly to my heart about this precious girl who was still waiting.
"You can handle her needs." God spoke.
CLEARLY there was no mistaking His words to my heart.
I was a bit dumbfounded. "Me, Lord?"
I immediately told Brian about this...and we began praying.
It was just 2 weeks before we would board a plane to China to bring Toby home.
Yes, the timing of it all was SHOCKING.
One day after that, as I fastened a clay necklace from Toby's fundraiser around my neck I had the distinct feeling, "This necklace is not mine. It is for HER."
When I took it off and looked at the verse on the back, I read the Scripture reference: Jeremiah 29:11.
God was saying this verse about her: "'For I know the plans I have for you,' declares the Lord, 'plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.'"
I was trembling.
This child who I had merely advocated for needed this necklace.
It was hers.
It had a message that SHE needed to hear.
So, I took it with us to China. I printed out the first page of her file that held the information about where she lived.
On our final day in China, I asked our guide to help me mail it to her. She gladly did. She wrote out the verse in characters and added my message, "A friend in America loves you. She wants you to have this necklace and understand the message that it carries. You are treasured."
She asked me if I wanted to sign it. But what could I do? I certainly could not build up her hopes that I was her Momma...but neither could I sign my first name because I LONGED to become her momma!!
So it went to her without a signature.
In the meantime, God spoke to Brian that we are to bring Esty home. The phone call came to me just 4 days after coming home with Toby. "Amy, I'm ready to start the process bring her home."
Oh, sweet man!! I rejoice in my husband who always listens to God's voice!!
By now, sweet Esty has been given the news that she has a family.
I cannot help wonder if she touches that necklace and dreams about us, like we dream about her.
This video was taken a few years back when an agency was desperately trying to find her a family. I have watched this over and over and over again. I cannot wait to wrap my arms around Esty and let her know HOW MUCH I LOVE AND ADORE HER!!!
Note: at the time of this video, she was blessed to be out of the orphanage and living with a foster family; that is the "mom" and "little sister"to whom she is referring. Sadly, she was returned to her orphanage where she still waits today.
It is our joy and great honor that God has chosen US to be that permanent, loving family for Esty. We are over the moon joyful to begin the walk of understanding Spina Bifida and how we can help her gain the most independence possible.
We are so excited to shower her with love and affection and begin training her heart.
Please pray with us that God will bring her home quickly and in a way that ALL WILL SEE that God is mighty!!!
Esty Marilyn HanHan...
so I thought I would share a bit about WHO she is and WHY we are pursuing her.
Esty at age 8...you can see a video of her when this photo was taken. Look below! |
As God has grown me in the past year, I have personally witnessed the incredible POWER that advocating for voiceless orphans has on lives.
Afterall, when Kelly advocated for our Toby here, exactly EIGHT lives radically changed...with more lives along the edges being impacted by Toby's story and his life as a Shaw.
My life by someone else advocating for orphans.
And so, it was only natural that I would begin doing the same.
Sharing faces.
Sharing stories.
Passing on links, making connections and praying my heart out for these children who need families.
Esty was one of those children I advocated for.
On November 20, 2012 I advocated for her on my Facebook page.
Here was a little girl who had been waiting in her birth country for someone to love her.
For someone to find value in her life.
I learned that she wanted to become a doctor when she grows up.
I know the reality: she is handicapped. Wheelchair bound.
In China, this means she is locked away from education.
Schools have no wheelchair access.
No special needs accommodations.
She has no hope of ever becoming a doctor if she remains in China.
Yet she has been waiting for a family for over 8 years.
EIGHT YEARS!!!
I cannot begin to comprehend that, honestly.
I think about where we were when she was born. (Incidentally, we were in China, living our lives as a family of 4 then...)
I think about where we were when she was abandoned (again, we were still in China...and I so wish I had been able to scoop up this little broken baby left on a train!!)
We came home then, had Oliver, gave birth to and then buried Oskar, moved and began a life in the NW corner of Ohio...all the while
she
waited.
It was in the quiet of the early morning when God spoke clearly and directly to my heart about this precious girl who was still waiting.
"You can handle her needs." God spoke.
CLEARLY there was no mistaking His words to my heart.
I was a bit dumbfounded. "Me, Lord?"
I immediately told Brian about this...and we began praying.
It was just 2 weeks before we would board a plane to China to bring Toby home.
Yes, the timing of it all was SHOCKING.
One day after that, as I fastened a clay necklace from Toby's fundraiser around my neck I had the distinct feeling, "This necklace is not mine. It is for HER."
When I took it off and looked at the verse on the back, I read the Scripture reference: Jeremiah 29:11.
God was saying this verse about her: "'For I know the plans I have for you,' declares the Lord, 'plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.'"
I was trembling.
This child who I had merely advocated for needed this necklace.
It was hers.
It had a message that SHE needed to hear.
So, I took it with us to China. I printed out the first page of her file that held the information about where she lived.
On our final day in China, I asked our guide to help me mail it to her. She gladly did. She wrote out the verse in characters and added my message, "A friend in America loves you. She wants you to have this necklace and understand the message that it carries. You are treasured."
She asked me if I wanted to sign it. But what could I do? I certainly could not build up her hopes that I was her Momma...but neither could I sign my first name because I LONGED to become her momma!!
So it went to her without a signature.
In the meantime, God spoke to Brian that we are to bring Esty home. The phone call came to me just 4 days after coming home with Toby. "Amy, I'm ready to start the process bring her home."
Oh, sweet man!! I rejoice in my husband who always listens to God's voice!!
By now, sweet Esty has been given the news that she has a family.
I cannot help wonder if she touches that necklace and dreams about us, like we dream about her.
This video was taken a few years back when an agency was desperately trying to find her a family. I have watched this over and over and over again. I cannot wait to wrap my arms around Esty and let her know HOW MUCH I LOVE AND ADORE HER!!!
Note: at the time of this video, she was blessed to be out of the orphanage and living with a foster family; that is the "mom" and "little sister"to whom she is referring. Sadly, she was returned to her orphanage where she still waits today.
It is our joy and great honor that God has chosen US to be that permanent, loving family for Esty. We are over the moon joyful to begin the walk of understanding Spina Bifida and how we can help her gain the most independence possible.
We are so excited to shower her with love and affection and begin training her heart.
Please pray with us that God will bring her home quickly and in a way that ALL WILL SEE that God is mighty!!!
Labels:
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Tuesday, November 20, 2012
Jesus Loves the Waiting Children of the World..
For every family who wants to adopt a healthy baby...
there are thousands upon thousands more children who are waiting to be chosen.
In China there is a rule that once a child has their 14th birthday, they may no longer be adopted.
It's OVER.
All hope of having a mom and a dad comes to a screeching halt.
This breaks my heart.
I have learned that children who are 18 (legal ADULTS!) in our American foster care systems still allow themselves to be listed as waiting for adoption because...
they
just
want
a
mom
of
their
own.
Oh this breaks my heart too!
How often have you called your mom on the phone needing some advice?
"How do I cook a turkey, Mom?" "Remind me how to hem a pair of pants again?"
These children have nobody.
No one who will sit by their bedside and listen to their hopes and dreams at night.
No one will will correct them when they step out of line.
No one who will encourage them when they feel down.
And in China, once the 14th birthday arrives--all hopes are shut off for a family.
FOREVER.
That's why I want to introduce you to a few children.
The first is a boy named Matthew.
Matthew is 13 years old and in danger of aging out FAST.
He has only a few months for his family to find him.
Here's what a volunteer said after spending time with this special young man:
Matthew is a bright boy, and tries really hard at school! He currently attends a special education school with some of his friends where I am told he is doing really well. He has two special needs; a skull deformity and dyskinesia of right limbs. He has very limited use of his right arm and hand. However, this does not affect his life greatly. He will never be an Olympic athlete, but he is able to run around and generally play like most kids.
Matthew has waited far too long for a family. He gets on with everyone and has lots of friends! I saw him grow and mature over the year, he truly is growing into a kind and generous young man. On top of that, he is an easy-going, handsome, bright and funny boy who needs a mom and dad of his own. I do not want him to face the future alone..
there are thousands upon thousands more children who are waiting to be chosen.
In China there is a rule that once a child has their 14th birthday, they may no longer be adopted.
It's OVER.
All hope of having a mom and a dad comes to a screeching halt.
This breaks my heart.
I have learned that children who are 18 (legal ADULTS!) in our American foster care systems still allow themselves to be listed as waiting for adoption because...
they
just
want
a
mom
of
their
own.
Oh this breaks my heart too!
How often have you called your mom on the phone needing some advice?
"How do I cook a turkey, Mom?" "Remind me how to hem a pair of pants again?"
These children have nobody.
No one who will sit by their bedside and listen to their hopes and dreams at night.
No one will will correct them when they step out of line.
No one who will encourage them when they feel down.
And in China, once the 14th birthday arrives--all hopes are shut off for a family.
FOREVER.
That's why I want to introduce you to a few children.
The first is a boy named Matthew.
Matthew is 13 years old and in danger of aging out FAST.
He has only a few months for his family to find him.
Here's what a volunteer said after spending time with this special young man:
Matthew is a bright boy, and tries really hard at school! He currently attends a special education school with some of his friends where I am told he is doing really well. He has two special needs; a skull deformity and dyskinesia of right limbs. He has very limited use of his right arm and hand. However, this does not affect his life greatly. He will never be an Olympic athlete, but he is able to run around and generally play like most kids.
Matthew has waited far too long for a family. He gets on with everyone and has lots of friends! I saw him grow and mature over the year, he truly is growing into a kind and generous young man. On top of that, he is an easy-going, handsome, bright and funny boy who needs a mom and dad of his own. I do not want him to face the future alone..
Will YOU become Matthew's family? Help us beat the clock and find his family!! Share about him!
The second is a boy named Bo. He is 12 years old.
As you may notice, Bo is missing his left forearm. Otherwise, he is said to be athletic, active and extroverted. I got to see video of him playing in the orphanage yard with other children, giggling and running and...waiting.
Here's a tidbit from his file:
Bo goes to third class at school. Since his reception ability is lagging behind, he studies seriously and hard. He works hard at school, consult when meeting questions, forms good studying habits, the teachers are all like him.
In terms of studying, he always tells himself “I’m not stupid, I just didn’t work hard; although I’m not genius, I will continue to work hard to change my fate”. He is ambitious. He gets along well with others at school and likes to play games with others. He loves to work and help others, left a good impression at school. He is active, naughty and has a ready smile. He comes back to this big family after class and brings his little sisters and brothers to play.
In their eyes, Bo is a big brother, always helps them and takes care of them. In the caretakers’ eyes, he is mature and always tries his best to do things within his power. Once, he cleared up the chairs and did some cleaning in the absence of a teacher, he always wipes desks for teachers which make them moved. They regard him as their closest relatives and love him. He is independent in daily life and has strong power to self care. He cleans his room everyday and washes his clothes frequently. He pays attention to sanitation and always makes his clothes tidy. He is an athletic boy, we hope other children could study from him.
Is Bo your son? Will you helps spread the word for him?
A third is Cassandra. Also a teenager with limited time to become a daughter.
Cassandra is 12 years old. She is blind in her right eye and is listed as having spina bifida and unilateral club feet. She has received surgery for her feet by an American doctor, but more surgery is needed.
She is said to be hard working in her studies and is a talented piano player. She is very open and outgoing with a wonderful, ready smile. She can make friends easily and is said to be very helpful to her friends.
Cassandra is able to move and walk with assistance and has continence.
Will you be her mother or father? Will you help share her story so they will find her?
Watch the following video and see the amazing facts about the world's orphans. See how God moves your heart!
If you would like information on Matthew, Bo or Cassandra I can put you in contact with someone who can help you!
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Thursday, November 8, 2012
Special Needs...Isn't that...Scary??
As you probably know, it's National Adoption Month.
People like me LOVE this month!! ;)
I've been asked in several different ways about special needs.
And often it comes with a sense of "Wow, you are so brave. I could never do that."
Or a secret rolling of the eyes that we are totally crazy.
Maybe both are true, maybe not.
I want to share this video about understanding the WAITING CHILD with special needs.
I think you'll see...
...they aren't so scary after all.
People like me LOVE this month!! ;)
I've been asked in several different ways about special needs.
And often it comes with a sense of "Wow, you are so brave. I could never do that."
Or a secret rolling of the eyes that we are totally crazy.
Maybe both are true, maybe not.
I want to share this video about understanding the WAITING CHILD with special needs.
I think you'll see...
...they aren't so scary after all.
And if you want to talk about adopting a child with special needs, I would love to chat and when I don't know the answers...I'll go looking for someone to connect you with!
Thursday, June 21, 2012
Spill the Beans...the Back Story!
So, this is the post so many have been asking for. My inbox is full of requests to know the BEHIND story of how we are adopting again! ...And from China! ...And a BOY!
Go get a tall glass of lemonade and sit for a spell. I love to tell a good story!
You may remember this post about my heart aching and me not knowing what to do about it, yes?
It was mid April, Zeb's adoption had finalized at the beginning of the month yet I was beside myself. I couldn't do ANYTHING but think of the millions and millions of waiting orphans around the United States and the world.
I would do everything I could to think about OTHER things--summer schedules, house updates we want to accomplish, gardening--but I simply could not get it off my heart!
Waiting orphans.
Children waiting in cribs.
Special Needs Children.
Teenage Children about to age out but longing for a mom and a dad.
All of them: Alone.
My conversations with friends would turn to my burden for these children. I would literally cry out to God to allow this burden to be productive. "Use me, Lord!" I would beg. One friend prayed for me to find a way to unite all the waiting children of the world with families! I was shaking in my shoes about that request but if God wants to use me, then I'll DO IT!
This was not a self-manufactured burden, it was clearly from the Lord.
And it was driving me insane!
It would seem as though God was doing SOMETHING...
I was becoming an addict. My vice? Spending hours late into the night looking through waiting children lists. I would email my dear Brian with different children. It got to the point that he wasn't reading them anymore, I got creative and stopped using the child's name in the subject and instead writing something to the effect of "you hot, sexy thing!" That would make him open the email! ;) Ha ha!
After a string of nights in bed sobbing for these children, Brian told me he wanted me to STOP looking.
"We are not going to adopt now anyway. Zareb is still working at fitting in."
Sigh.
Okay.
I tried. I really did.
Then on a Sunday I had a conversation with a friend at church. I just belched out my whole story of how my heart was breaking for children I didn't know and that I wanted to be a family for one of these forsaken ones. I remember distinctly her husband asking me incredulously, "Really? You mean you actually WANT a child with special needs???"
My face lit up!
"Yes! Yes I do! I want to love on a child who has been rejected because of their needs."
I think the dear man thought I was literally out of my mind.
Perhaps Iwas am.
All along I have followed another blog called Ni Hao Y'all. The author is a mutual friend of two of my friends who run Wild Olive Tees. I've never met her, but I am inexplicably drawn to her blog. I adore her pictures of her sweet children. Looking back now, I can see God using it to place a specific hunger in my heart for Chinese orphans.
Then I began texting my dear friend Amie. She too has adopted from China. Six times in fact! I began just asking her general question about how in the world to start such a process. She gave me great advice...but Brian really wasn't on board.
Remember, he said we weren't adopting yet. It was too soon!
And sometime along the way I was crying over the orphans waiting here in America. I begged Brian to adopt a 11 yr old African American boy. He is AD-OR-ABLE. He let me pursue it to a point, but then pulled me back when things got serious. He said it just wasn't a smart idea to usurp Jensi as oldest at this time. Yeah, I know. But I would STILL love for him to get a family, so if YOU have an ache in your heart, please go watch this video about the adorable Omar!
Ok, back to the story!
Now let me tell you a really cool thing about my husband: He is ALWAYS willing to do whatever God tells him to. Because of this, he lets me go about my many children that I am drawn to. But one day, it was different.
I was not on waiting children lists.
I was not even at the computer for the purpose of children.
I was simply reading a blog I love and it was a harmless post about a day trip they had with another family. She had a link to the other family, so I clicked. This blog also talked about their fun day trip. But there was another link to another friend of hers that I clicked on.
And then it happened.
I saw him.
I wasn't looking, but there he was, looking back at me.
Cuuuteness!!!
And then I read the story. He and I share the same birthday!
My heart did a flip flop!
I read about his special needs and read that they were looking earnestly for his family.
But the posts were back dated to December and January. Certainly this gorgeous child had a family snatch him up by now!
I wrote to the blog author just to be sure.
No.
And it turns out, he was waiting for...US!!!
I shared the entire story (and his full file!) with Brian that night. He didn't turn a deaf ear, but listened with an open heart. He said, "*We can knock on this door with a feather," meaning God had to do some HUGE door opening to confirm that this was really right.
And God did.
Fast forward this story through paperwork to our adoption agency and background checks, visits to the doctor and filing an official Letter of Intent with the Chinese government and 7 days later we hear:
China has said YES!!!
We are now the family for this precious child who was waiting a long, long time to be chosen! He had been advocated for on many blogs and social media, and over 1,200 people clicked on his picture and read about him, but we didn't see it.
I think we weren't ready.
But then God prepared my heart, gave me a willing husband and away we go!
So now, after having just finished paying off Zeb's adoption in April, we begin again.
And the reality is, we need help. We cannot fund this adoption out of pocket. (Not many people can!)
We have partnered with Adopt Together, a non-profit organization that acts as a holding place for funds raised for family's adoption needs. When donors give, they receive a tax-deductible receipt and 100% of their gift goes to the family. We have opened our page with them and you can visit by clicking here.
We are waiting on the Lord to bring Toby home and trusting in Him to fund it! We would be honored if you would choose to become part of Toby's story by supporting us in prayer, encouragement and/or financial support.
As always, we love to hear your comments and feedback and will answer any questions you may have!
And so, this is where the story is to this point! Stay tuned for more!
Go get a tall glass of lemonade and sit for a spell. I love to tell a good story!
You may remember this post about my heart aching and me not knowing what to do about it, yes?
It was mid April, Zeb's adoption had finalized at the beginning of the month yet I was beside myself. I couldn't do ANYTHING but think of the millions and millions of waiting orphans around the United States and the world.
I would do everything I could to think about OTHER things--summer schedules, house updates we want to accomplish, gardening--but I simply could not get it off my heart!
Waiting orphans.
Children waiting in cribs.
Special Needs Children.
Teenage Children about to age out but longing for a mom and a dad.
All of them: Alone.
My conversations with friends would turn to my burden for these children. I would literally cry out to God to allow this burden to be productive. "Use me, Lord!" I would beg. One friend prayed for me to find a way to unite all the waiting children of the world with families! I was shaking in my shoes about that request but if God wants to use me, then I'll DO IT!
This was not a self-manufactured burden, it was clearly from the Lord.
And it was driving me insane!
It would seem as though God was doing SOMETHING...
I was becoming an addict. My vice? Spending hours late into the night looking through waiting children lists. I would email my dear Brian with different children. It got to the point that he wasn't reading them anymore, I got creative and stopped using the child's name in the subject and instead writing something to the effect of "you hot, sexy thing!" That would make him open the email! ;) Ha ha!
After a string of nights in bed sobbing for these children, Brian told me he wanted me to STOP looking.
"We are not going to adopt now anyway. Zareb is still working at fitting in."
Sigh.
Okay.
I tried. I really did.
Then on a Sunday I had a conversation with a friend at church. I just belched out my whole story of how my heart was breaking for children I didn't know and that I wanted to be a family for one of these forsaken ones. I remember distinctly her husband asking me incredulously, "Really? You mean you actually WANT a child with special needs???"
My face lit up!
"Yes! Yes I do! I want to love on a child who has been rejected because of their needs."
I think the dear man thought I was literally out of my mind.
Perhaps I
All along I have followed another blog called Ni Hao Y'all. The author is a mutual friend of two of my friends who run Wild Olive Tees. I've never met her, but I am inexplicably drawn to her blog. I adore her pictures of her sweet children. Looking back now, I can see God using it to place a specific hunger in my heart for Chinese orphans.
Then I began texting my dear friend Amie. She too has adopted from China. Six times in fact! I began just asking her general question about how in the world to start such a process. She gave me great advice...but Brian really wasn't on board.
Remember, he said we weren't adopting yet. It was too soon!
And sometime along the way I was crying over the orphans waiting here in America. I begged Brian to adopt a 11 yr old African American boy. He is AD-OR-ABLE. He let me pursue it to a point, but then pulled me back when things got serious. He said it just wasn't a smart idea to usurp Jensi as oldest at this time. Yeah, I know. But I would STILL love for him to get a family, so if YOU have an ache in your heart, please go watch this video about the adorable Omar!
Ok, back to the story!
Now let me tell you a really cool thing about my husband: He is ALWAYS willing to do whatever God tells him to. Because of this, he lets me go about my many children that I am drawn to. But one day, it was different.
I was not on waiting children lists.
I was not even at the computer for the purpose of children.
I was simply reading a blog I love and it was a harmless post about a day trip they had with another family. She had a link to the other family, so I clicked. This blog also talked about their fun day trip. But there was another link to another friend of hers that I clicked on.
And then it happened.
I saw him.
I wasn't looking, but there he was, looking back at me.
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"Are you my Mommy?" |
And then I read the story. He and I share the same birthday!
My heart did a flip flop!
I read about his special needs and read that they were looking earnestly for his family.
But the posts were back dated to December and January. Certainly this gorgeous child had a family snatch him up by now!
I wrote to the blog author just to be sure.
No.
He was STILL WAITING.
And it turns out, he was waiting for...US!!!
I shared the entire story (and his full file!) with Brian that night. He didn't turn a deaf ear, but listened with an open heart. He said, "*We can knock on this door with a feather," meaning God had to do some HUGE door opening to confirm that this was really right.
And God did.
Fast forward this story through paperwork to our adoption agency and background checks, visits to the doctor and filing an official Letter of Intent with the Chinese government and 7 days later we hear:
China has said YES!!!
We are now the family for this precious child who was waiting a long, long time to be chosen! He had been advocated for on many blogs and social media, and over 1,200 people clicked on his picture and read about him, but we didn't see it.
I think we weren't ready.
But then God prepared my heart, gave me a willing husband and away we go!
So now, after having just finished paying off Zeb's adoption in April, we begin again.
And the reality is, we need help. We cannot fund this adoption out of pocket. (Not many people can!)
We have partnered with Adopt Together, a non-profit organization that acts as a holding place for funds raised for family's adoption needs. When donors give, they receive a tax-deductible receipt and 100% of their gift goes to the family. We have opened our page with them and you can visit by clicking here.
We are waiting on the Lord to bring Toby home and trusting in Him to fund it! We would be honored if you would choose to become part of Toby's story by supporting us in prayer, encouragement and/or financial support.
As always, we love to hear your comments and feedback and will answer any questions you may have!
And so, this is where the story is to this point! Stay tuned for more!
*{I foresee this "feather knocking" phrase as a very cool future catch phrase! I suggest we all start using it! ;)}
*If you are interested in reading about us finding Toby from the blogger who advocated his story, you can click here as she tells it from her perspective!
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